Following on from my last article, What You Focus on You Create, I would like to suggest that there are many beliefs that people subconsciously focus on. You might be surprised to discover just how many beliefs you learned as a child that still control your life as an adult without your knowing.
As a child I created memories which were obvious. I can look back on them as an adult and recognize them, but I had no idea that the child was also creating behaviour and survival patterns that could also last a lifetime. As a young child we learned ways to behave that would keep us safe within our families and have our needs met. What I didn’t realize for many years was that many of the choices I made throughout my adult life were made through the eyes of that young child, still using those early survival patterns that I had never recognized.
Before I could reach my potential as an adult, I needed to look at the areas of my life that weren’t working and discover what I believed about them.
I realised that the three sayings that ruled my life without my knowing were:
- Children will be seen and not heard
- Money doesn’t grow on trees
- A woman’s place is in the home
I gave credit to my grandmother for teaching me these survival patterns that ruled my life for many years from the hidden realms of my subconscious. I never spoke up for myself. I always had enough money but never any extra and my place was in the home looking after the family. I was the good child who became the good wife and did without for the good of the family. I had to recognize what was driving many of my responses before I was able to change them. Awareness gave me the opportunity to change if I wanted to. What I believe, I think about. What I think about, I focus on. What I focus on, I create.
What areas of your life don’t work for you in the way you would like them to?
What do you believe about them?
Who taught them to you?
Why do you continue to believe them and allow them to shape your life?
Write a list and see what you can uncover.
Glenda Hodge