Following on from my last article, What You Focus on You Create, I would like to suggest that there are many beliefs that people subconsciously focus on. You might be surprised to discover just how many beliefs you learned as a child that still control your life as an adult without your knowing.
As a child I created memories which were obvious. I can look back on them as an adult and recognize them, but I had no idea that the child was also creating behaviour and survival patterns that could also last a lifetime.
As a young child we learned ways to behave that would keep us safe within our families and have our needs met. What I didn’t realize for many years was that many of the choices I made throughout my adult life were made through the eyes of that young child, still using those early survival patterns that I had never recognized.
Before I could reach my potential as an adult, I needed to look at the areas of my life that weren’t working and discover what I believed about them.
I realised that the three sayings that ruled my life without my knowing were:
- Children will be seen and not heard
- Money doesn’t grow on trees
- A woman’s place is in the home
I gave credit to my grandmother for teaching me these survival patterns that ruled my life for many years from the hidden realms of my subconscious. I never spoke up for myself. I always had enough money but never any extra and my place was in the home looking after the family. I was the good child who became the good wife and did without for the good of the family. I had to recognize what was driving many of my responses before I was able to change them. Awareness gave me the opportunity to change if I wanted to. What I believe, I think about. What I think about, I focus on. What I focus on, I create.
- What areas of your life don’t work for you in the way you would like them to?
- What do you believe about them?
- Who taught them to you?
- Why do you continue to believe them and allow them to shape your life?
Write a list and see what you can uncover.
Glenda Hodge