The death of a partner can be one of the toughest challenges that many of us will have to face. The longer the couple have been together, the deeper the void will be.

I have read research which suggests that one in three people in their 60s will face a crisis which will be triggered either by the death of someone close, or an illness. Both events are a stark reminder that we only have a limited time left on this earth.

Coming to terms with the loss of a partner is extremely hard and it is important to have people around you who love and care for you and who can be strong enough to give that extra support that is required, even though they too may be grieving.

Grieving is a painful process, but it is something that the person left behind must go through. Talking about the memories that had been shared between the couple is very helpful. The surviving member will have many stories to tell and will probably re-tell them again and again. It is therefore important that someone can listen and share those memories; it is a part of the healing process.

Some people find their Faith will help them through, for others they will need assistance from their friends and family and for others they may need that special help that only a professional can give.  If you are still grieving after a year or so, it’s probably worth talking to a professional counsellor. There is nothing wrong with seeking professional help and it may assist you to accept what has happened and pick up the pieces of your life.

For some people this loss or a serious illness can be the start of a long, slow decline. For others, it’s a wake – up call to make the most of the time that’s left to them. The positive news is that the grief will diminish in time and life still offers lots of opportunities – if you’re prepared to see them.